Marriage is Between a Man and a Woman

In my life time I have been around people with same-sex attractions.  Gay or lesbian, both are children of God and want to live a normal life.  Although all of us want to live normal lives, when we speak of marriage there is a difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals.  All these debates, now and from the past, speak of equal rights and benefits.  I think it is important we do not discriminate. I think it is important to treat people as you would like to be treated, but when it comes to marriage, I know it is between a man and a woman.

“The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” is a document I believe is revelation received from God and what he deems as true. It says,

“We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children. . . .

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity”

We can debate all day marriage is between a man and a woman, which God has intended it to be, but people have different views on the matter.  For a change, let’s focus on the children instead of what two in love adults demand and desire. 

Wardle, L.D. (2008). The attack on marriage as the union of a man and a woman

Same-sex marriage undermines parenting and child-rearing. Every child deserves to be raised by his or her mother and father. While unwed birth and divorce impair that right for some children of conjugal unions, same-sex marriage guarantees that all children who are born during or raised in such unions will be deprived totally of this fundamental moral right. Further, the linkage between responsible procreation and parenting is weakened when marriage is redefined to allow gay unions that absolutely are incapable of procreation. Also, the co-parenting message of marriage is weakened when marriage is redefined to include relations among same-sex couples that are designed for sexual pleasure and lack the ability to coparent.

It is important for readers to know I am not saying same-sex couples are bad parents. I honestly don’t believe that.  Sometimes same-sex couples provide and care for children as well as the average heterosexual married couple. The point being made instead is the power of being raised by your birth mother and father is very important for a child. Children naturally thrive for their birth parents, a mother and a father.  Below is a testimony from a woman who was raised by homosexual parents.  She said she loves her mom and step mom, but still believes the best place to raise children is in the home of a man and woman.

Katy Faust, Letter-Justice Kennedy, “An Open Letter from the Child of a Loving Gay Parent” (Feb 2015)

“When two adults who cannot procreate want to raise children together, where do those babies come from? Each child is conceived by a mother and a father to whom that child has a natural right. When a child is placed in a same-sex-headed household, she will miss out on at least one critical parental relationship and a vital dual-gender influence. The nature of the adults’ union guarantees this. Whether by adoption, divorce, or third-party reproduction, the adults in this scenario satisfy their heart’s desires, while the child bears the most significant cost: missing out on one or more of her biological parents.

If it is undisputed social science that children suffer greatly when they are abandoned by their biological parents, when their parent’s divorce, when one parent dies, or when they are donor-conceived, then how can it be possible that they are miraculously turning out “even better!” when raised in same-sex-headed households?

Now that I am a parent, I see clearly the beautiful differences my husband and I bring to our family. I see the wholeness and health that my children receive because they have both of their parents living with and loving them. I see how important the role of their father is and how irreplaceable I am as their mother. We play complementary roles in their lives, and neither of us is disposable. In fact, we are both critical.

Making policy that intentionally deprives children of their fundamental rights is something that we should not endorse, incentivize, or promote.”

Although I believe a marriage is between a man and women, it is also important not to forget who the victim is here.  The children who are raised in the United States only have a 50% chance of their mother and father staying together to raise them. Yes, this leaves a bad taste in all of our mouths, but if we allow same-sex marriage it adds to the fire.  Children would be missing one of their parents, probably both, during the most crucial years of their young age.  Again, I don’t think homosexuals are bad people, I just think the child, although they might have wonderful homosexual parents, would miss what a mother and father naturally have to give them.  I know God exists and he has a plan for us on this earth.  I know he wants us to be raised by the families that create us and he gives us the opportunity to live with them after this life for eternity.